The Truth Served Cold

The things I’ve witnessed over the past 10 days or so have truly led me to understand why black women remain the most unmarried demographic of females in the entire fucking country and why 75% of them are single.  I can’t wait for Bill Cosby to write a followup to his original book “Come On, Ladies – Get The Fuck Out Of Your Own Way.” Jesus fucking goddamn Christ…I did not think it was physically possible for me to be this pissed off.

Editor’s Note: So I don’t have to hear anymore dumbasses waxing retarded about my alleged hatred of black women and idiots who think this post was the result of me being rejected by a black woman, you are wrong. Sorry.  If you read this comment and still think I hate black women, feel free to kill yourself.

The problem good black men (and white, hispanic, middle eastern etc) tend to have with black women (I’m leaving idiot men out of the discussion because they are irrelevant) is the very fact that so many women DO lower their standards. Then after getting burned they don’t raise their standards, they just come up with a bunch of stupid ones.

Damn near every black woman travels this path:

1. Fall for some assclown 50 cent lookalike wannabe that hustles, has no real career or a decent education
2. Get burned by the assclown, but in the process learn what you don’t want in a man
3. Good guy falls in her lap, but she’s too busy dismissing him wholesale or beating him to death with her emotional baggage from the last relationship to realize she’s fucking herself over to, ironically, keep from getting fucked over

To illustrate:

Scenario 1) Sue is Jack’s “boo”. Jack doesn’t have a job, is forgiven. Jack cheats on Sue, is forgiven. Jack emotionally abuses Sue, is forgiven. Jack goes to jail on misdemeanor drug possession, is forgiven. Jack disrespects Jill’s friends, is forgiven. Jack reveals three illegitimate children, is forgiven.

Scenario 2) After Sue finally dumps Jack, she meets Bill. He is attractive, intelligent, and funny. She learns he owns his home, has a stable and high-paying career, and volunteers frequently. Sue is really into this guy…until she learns he’s two years younger than she is, which is against one of the new horseshit relationship rules she pulled out of O Magazine. When he asks if he can call her, she says “you’re too young” and walks away.

After exiting a bad relationship, women love to establish sets of criteria that their next guy will have to meet. This is a good concept except that the criteria the women pick are usually completely irrelevant when it comes to avoiding bad guys, and are at the same time remarkably effective at deflecting good guys. Shit like “I won’t date guys more than three years younger than me” or “I won’t give my number out at a bar” are typical examples of women thinking that having a lot of standards is the same thing as having good standards.

Black women aren’t the only ones that do this of course – women in general just love to make good guys jump through a thousand hoops while inexplicably opening the floodgates for marginally charismatic jackasses.
Non-black women, however, aren’t subject to the unfortunate and extremely unfair social circumstances that black women are……….in short, black women, through no fault of their own, simply can’t afford to have this attitude.

Every black woman hears this argument about being attracted to bad guys and dismissing the good and cries “NOT ME, I’M DIFFERENT!”, and yet – as so many of my own black friends can attest – we see it happen more often than not. It’s like ten years ago before it was cool to admit to watching porn: everybody said “I don’t watch that filth!”, yet porn was somehow a multi-billion dollar industry.

Other women throw nonsensical excuses at the person making the point:

1.) The good guys coming at me are dorky, ugly, and/or have no game
2.) You just hate black women
3.) Your problem is that you just have a fetish for white/asian women
4.) You hang out in the wrong places
5.) Don’t be mad because black women aren’t throwing themselves at you

I called these excuses nonsense because it is, indeed, nonsense. This portrait women have of good guys being ugly is not based on actual experiences, especially since genuinely nerdy guys rarely have the balls to approach attractive women anyway. Black women turn down men who are objectively considered jawdroppingly attractive and fit the other criteria I’ve mentioned ALL THE TIME.

It’s tempting to say that maybe these good-looking guys are failing because they have no game, swagger, or personality – but again, that’s refuted by the fact that these are the same guys readily snapped up by attractive and educated non-black women.

Anyway, nobody’s asking you all to date Carlton fucking Banks or that asshole from Mo’ Money. Nobody’s asking you to lower your standards. What I’m asking for is for women to toss away their bullshit standards (if you’re 29, it is PATENTLY FUCKING MORONIC to dismiss a 26 year old because you have a ‘three year rule’. So please get the hell outta here with the kneejerk responses about what you’re “too good for.”

I wouldn’t find any of this annoying to begin with if I didn’t have to constantly hear black women whining about there being ‘no decent men.’ If you’re feeling guys who are a little more edgy and exude danger (real or imagined), do your thing. Just don’t bitch and moan when the inevitable happens.

I can see it now…..nobody will address the core issue: lambasting the women that are perpetually loyal to no-good men. Loyalty ceases to be a virtue when it’s applied to someone that isn’t worthy of it. Loyalty CANNOT be considered out of the context to which it’s applied.

Yes, it’s true that I could aim my anger at worthless black men that make up the other side of this tedious goddamn coin…but what’s the point? As it is, we’re looking at a broken system that benefits them. They get to act afool and treat you like shit, and they’re still the darlings of your hearts. So what motive to they have to change??? Black women are the ones that claim to be hurting. Black women are the ones declaring victimhood. Black women, therefore, are the ones with the reason (besides altruism, which we hopefully all understand to be beyond the reach of selfish, no-good men) to do something about it.

You’re sooooo willing to give that loser guy the benefit of the doubt that he’ll change and become something respectable. How about for once you give that good guy the benefit of the doubt that he can set your heart ablaze? If both of them fail, you’re a lot better off with the good guy.

Otherwise, do whatever the fuck you want. You’re grownups (technically anyway), so I can’t tell you what to do. Just please pipe the fuck down when the shit hits the fan. It’s your own fault. You’re an adult. Deal with it.

It is truly a shame that black women are so devalued…but part of the fault does lie with black women when they’re so willing to give undeserving men chance after chance after fucking chance. You are not valuable if your loyalty is completely unqualified! Do something about it for Christ’s sake! Turn your backs on their asses! Let them know that you won’t be there if they abuse your loyalty! Give that guy who doesn’t instantly set off fireworks in your heart a chance to do so; give him a chance to grow on you. Make the motherfuckering losers pay so that in a generation or two, YOUR daughters will be born into a culture that values black women and forces black men to be up to the task of deserving their love!!!

“Hey asshole, it’s not just black women!”….I’m jumping on black women in particular because it’s black women from whom I’m constantly hearing the pervasive argument about black men being cheaters, liars, etc. etc. while claiming that there are no good black men. They complain in spite of the fact that I am ALWAYS seeing good guys (like my boy James) getting passed over because of BS dating criteria or the fact that he doesn’t make the girl wet in the pants immediately. It’s akin to turning down lottery winnings because the cash came in a briefcase instead of a big sack with a $ sign on it.

Women of other colors can afford to pass over good men of their own races because, let’s face it, they’re in plentiful supply. Black women that turn down good black guys, on the other hand, do so at their own peril because there just aren’t a whole hell of a lot of them. They furthermore make the situation worse by remaining steadfastly loyal to men who abuse their trust. (ask Rebecca)

Let’s face facts – what incentive do men have to better themselves if women are going to stick by them no matter what? You can call them assholes all day long, but if you’re still giving them the love and the pussy at the end of the day…then what the hell do they care? The primary responsibility for being fuckups still lies with them of course, but there’s a point where the women who support them go from being loyal to being an enabler.

Furthermore, I don’t think enough (negative) attention is being cast on the no-good black WOMEN who ACTIVELY pursue losers, ACTIVELY promote self-destructive behavior in men, and leave the good ones frustrated and wanting for options. When you see this shit happen…GET MAD! Tell those bitches about themselves. They’re making the situation worse for you.

If you’re going to sit around waiting for these men to suddenly ‘wake up’ through no action of your own, you’re going to be sitting and waiting for a long damn time. No one is going to rescue black women from this situation except black women, because you are the only ones with the PLAUSIBLE power to effect the change you’re looking for….. “You have the vagina.” USE IT!

Ladies please pay very close attention to the following statement:

99.99% OF EVERYTHING SINGLE MEN DO IS DONE TO ATTRACT WOMEN

If women would stop responding to the thuggishness and/or assholery, then the thuggishness and assholery WOULD STOP! Those dudes who would ordinarily act stupid would finally get their shit together because the only girls who ever put up with it (black women) finally said “enough.” The scarcity of good black men would, over time, cease to exist.

So what do you do in the meantime while those dudes get themselves together? Simple: date that black guy that’s cute and good on paper but you weren’t necessarily ‘feeling’ the first time you met him. Date out of the race. Try approaching guys instead of waiting for them to approach you. Date ANYONE but those losers who are keeping the whole friggin’ race down.

Men want you, dammit, and I’m not just talking about the ones with no options. The idea that non-blacks don’t find black women attractive is BULL when applied generally. In some cases, you just have to be more aggressive. Men like women who actively give them openings – that’s why we dig Brazilian women so much.

I find it sad that in this age of female empowerment so many educated women are responding to the excuses I gave earlier with decidedly unempowering responses. (Enthusiastically assigning blame to others robs you of the ability to fix the problem yourself and is decidedly unempowering.)

Granted, I could be accused of doing exactly that…except for the qualifying word ‘enthusiastically’. It does not make me happy to recognize the seemingly pathologic attraction black women have to liars, cheaters, losers, deadbeats and gangbangers. This might sound arrogant, but fuck it…I truly wish that I could assign most or all of the blame for my own mishaps with black women and their frequent attraction to unworthy men on myself – if the problem is me, then at least I’m in control.

I suppose I misspoke by saying these are all conclusions I came to in the last ten days. That’s not true; these opinions have been forming for years based on personal experience.  It’s just the last ten days that finally set me off about it.

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